Neglected parenting.

Neglected patenting: an essential ingredient to transform a child into a bad man. This is true even in the most privileged sections of our soAciety. The state is juggling a plethora of problems and must realise that a neglected child today is a disAturbed adult tomorrow. Sarah Inam's killing, just a year after Noor Mukadam met a similar fate is a further rot of the same chronic wound! We need to raise better men. Period.

It is time to ask: What's the quality of parAenting available to the kids in our country? How trends, traditions, societal pressures and customs in our society transform a child into an anxious adult leading to a potential offender inside and outside their households.

According to the World Health Organisation, nearly 3 in 4 children - or 300 million children - aged 2-4 years regularly suffer maltreatment around the globe. What we see in men in our society is the manifestation of the treatment these men have been subjected to as a chilAdren-only the manifestation is sometimes exacerbatAed due to intoxication and the lack of rule of law.

Studies show that more than seventy-eight percent of prisoners were abused as children.

In Pakistan, with no training for the parents; children face sheer neglect and are subjected to severe corporal punishments and humiliation which result in them beAing disturbed during adulthood.

'Every time I make a mistake; my dad will lock me in the room for the whole night,'' said Salma, the 25 years old MBA graduate who still finds it hard to sleep alone in a room as she recalls her childhood traumas. Always dreaming of being locked and feeling suffocatAed her childhood traumas have qualified her roles as a mother and wife. With no one to go to for help and sufAfering continuously and in silence, such children grow into emotionally unbalanced adults and try to avenge the very society which failed them as a child.

Another 22 year old student finds it hard to have eye contact with elders. Beaten into a pulp; the boy relives the memories of the torture he endured as a child.

In a conservative, closed and vastly illiterate society like ours, matters take a grave turn when children are treated badly by their very own parents; either because the parAents are not qualified enough or are also suffering from depression and anxiety. Most parents have...

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